Stop Playing Small – YOU Are Brilliant


Stop Playing Small – YOU Are Brilliant

My dad was a math genius. He would literally sit and read 500-page books full of calculus formulas.  I, on the other hand, would cry in frustration every. dang. night working on my pre-algebra homework. Back then, I was 11 and I didn’t know a whole lot, but I did know it seemed pretty weird for someone to actually enjoy reading books that gave me a headache just to think about!

He was not only smart with math, he used math to design and build the most amazing contraptions. When I was 3 or 4, I remember taking rides in an empty parking lot with him – in the dune buggy he built himself. (We may have had seatbelts, I’m sure we didn’t have helmets – but hey, it was the 70s, you know?! And this is one of my most cherished early childhood memories.)

I remember him coming home from work and going straight to the garage day after day to work on projects. He was a welder by trade, and I didn’t realize it then, but in retrospect, I see it was literally his passion. He worked his ass off at a shipyard pulling 10-hour days, sometimes more, and would still come home to weld on his projects.

When my dad died 15 years ago, I was 26 (ok, I know that even if math makes you cringe, like me, you can pretty easily figure out my age here… but I feel like it’s important to the story). I was an adult who had moved 2 states away from my family and was living with the man I would marry and build my own family and life with. It was not until my dad’s funeral that one of my uncles told an incredible story of his brilliance.

photo courtesy satit_srihin
photo courtesy satit_srihin


If I remember correctly, the story went that my uncle had a friend who had difficulties walking but had loved to hike and wanted to be able to do it again. So my uncle had talked to my dad, and my dad designed and built a sort of wheelchair that could be taken up steep hills and over rocky terrain. My uncle’s friend had been freed from a limitation because of something my dad created. The story was amazing and heartbreaking to me all at once.

I’ve often wondered why I’d never heard anything about this until my mid-20s. I wonder, with all my dad’s brilliance and talent, why he would keep it to himself in our dingy garage. I wonder why he never pursued patents or marketing for any of his inventions.  He could have changed so many lives…including his own and his children’s.

Today, as a woman who has pondered this for nearly 20 years, I find myself asking – why are you not sharing YOUR brilliance?
You have unique gifts to offer the world, but you keep playing small and hiding your shine. Is it fear? What are you afraid of – failure? rejection? ridicule? not being ‘good enough’? outshining someone else? not living up to your own (or someone else’s) expectations?

[Tweet ““Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion.” ~ Rumi “]

I ask this of myself. I realize that I’ve been playing small. I think of my dad and how many lives could have been changed if he’d shared his light with the world. I notice myself hiding my own light out of fear, probably all of the fears I listed above and then some!

And as I sit with this, it occurs to me that I don’t want to let the fear limit me. I don’t want my own kids to someday wonder…. “Why did she not share all of her brilliance with the world?! What a difference she could have made if she’d just gotten out of her own way and let her light shine bright!” So I’m working hard to overcome that fear.




I’m working on creating a spectacular space (online) where I can invite people in with confidence that when you arrive, your needs and my purpose will be completely and astoundingly served!

(In case we’re just meeting for the first time, this will be a place where I share my passion & tips for living a healthier, happier life with busy moms like you, who just need reliable family nutrition & wellness info without fuss or fake stuff! We share a love for SIMPLE, REAL & HASSLE-FREE!)

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Meanwhile, I wonder how many other brilliant, inventive, caring people are out there working silently on their passion but being too afraid to share it. Is it you? What is that wonderful, amazing thing that you LOVE to do, but you’re keeping it to yourself?

Please, get out of your own way – you are brilliant, and the world NEEDS you to share your gifts!

What is one small action you could take today to step through your fear? I’d love to hear your ideas! Please share in the comments section below OR let’s chat about it inside the group {Revitalize Lounge}



P.S. If you have a love for any of these:
~caregiving, listening, helping people
~bringing out the fun & positive in any situation
~solving problems/creating solutions
~researching and curating info for others
~leading from the front
~setting & reaching lofty goals

Let’s connect! I’d love to see if we’d be a good fit to work together on sharing YOUR gifts and special talents with the world in a meaningful way! E-mail me: 



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